Yesterday, I came across a video clip that has a pretty cool message. Either I have been hiding under rock or this hasn’t reached the masses but like it in a quirky real kick ass way. There is something about this that really resonates with me yet there is also bit of a whhhooooa hold on there – but I guess that’s the point.
Secrets by Mary Lambert is like an admit fest about the stuff that might be seen as pretty crappy in life. We all have those things that we are scared that if others find out they may think less of us or judge or put us down or just be damn nasty about it. Here’s the thing, I know that this may come as a shock you but none of us are perfect! Yep that’s it. We look at airbrushed pictures everyday, perfectly marketed people or only see the highlight reel on facebook and Instagram all the time but life isn’t airbrushed or just a highlight reel.
Life can be truly wonderful but also can have some things that we don’t like – we are not perfect, we are real people with real things happening. I love the part of the song that says…
“They tell us from the time that we are young, to hide the things we don’t like ourselves , inside ourselves. I know I am not the only one who spent so long attempting to be someone else. Well I’m over it!”
This has been bit of a battle for me as I establish my business and I am over it!. Somehow in my head I had it that I needed to be all official and stuff as that’s what business people are like. Even in my teaching art therapists I was getting all panicky that I needed to know the ins and outs of every theory. But what I have come to realise is that I am not helping anyone by trying to be someone else. Yes I am not as size 8, come with frizzy hair and glasses, I wear comfy clothes and laugh at things that may not actually be funny. I am not an encyclopaedia of theoretical frameworks and prefer to talk about real experiences in a no BS way. My car is littered with ice coffee containers, reminants of my breakfast and art gear. Amongst other things, I am a shocker at returning texts and phone calls (working on these) I am Bel and she hasn’t had the perfect life – far from it. But the best bit is that Bel is real. I am going to embrace that more, people want the real Bel not the Bel who is so busy thinking that she needs to live up to a reputation or an image of how a teacher, therapist or business person should be. She doesn’t have it all together and that’s ok. She knows how to be with a client and how to walk with them so they can be vulnerable to themselves and that my friend is more important in a therapy space than having a pristine car or hair that is faultless.
Imagine if we all just accepted those things that aren’t perfect about ourselves, it feels liberating just writing those imperfections above. Its bloody exhausting trying to be something that you are not, think about how much energy would be saved. How cool would it be to embrace our limitations so we can just get on with being ourselves and being REAL to the world.
I will let you sit with that but take the time to watch the film clip (in comments below) and feel free to give me your thoughts.
Have real good week and be unapologetically you!